Not every mother uses F-bombs to describe her baby.
Not every mother says “they can scramble the baby like an egg,” yells “hail Satan; eat babies!,” or dedicates their “double fetus purge” to you, dear Christian.
Some mothers simply have not been given over by God in their sin to that level of hardness.
Now let me be clear, lest you misunderstand: that level of hardness you are seeing examples of all over this site is common in interactions with the actively aborting crowd. Christians who reach out verbally on the sidewalk or in writing to actively aborting mommies online regularly see some degree of jaw-dropping vileness in the mothers’ speech or actions surrounding their decisions to kill their little boys or girls.
(If you work at a Pregnancy Center, you likely will struggle to agree with that fact as there is confusion regarding what segment of mothers you dear folks reach out to vs. the actively-aborting. Read here to understand who the Pregnancy Centers are reaching vs. Christians ministering on the sidewalk).
But let’s talk now about the perceived “softer” mother.
The Bible says that murder — and abortion is murder — “stems from the HEART” (Matt. 15:19). It’s been wisely said in commentary on that verse: “The heart of the problem is a problem of the heart.” The Bible makes no bones about it. Abortion is a sin issue — a violation of the 6th commandment.
But where is the sin in that softer-spirited mother who just seems to need a little help and encouragement? Is she really guilty in the situation or is she just a victim of circumstance, coercion, and just a sad state of affairs?
Nothing beats answering that question like walking through a few real-deal cases, so let’s do that.
[Names hidden. Identities masked. Real abortions. My comments underneath each mother’s statement.]
Can you see, dear Christian, through what each mommy is writing on the surface to get to the ROOT sin issues in each mother’s story? … sin issues that are snowballing into plans to murder?
Keep your Biblical glasses on, and let’s look at a couple more. Once again, real abortions. No F-words. The “softer” mother.
If we’re going to end abortion, we’ve got to be much more discerning — BIBLICALLY-discerning — as we read each mother’s story. Our goal as Christians reaching out to the aborting mama must be to see with Biblical eyes what her sin is, to show her that sin via God’s law, and to take her to the Savior… who died for fornicators and murderers who repent and trust in Him.
We mustn’t get distracted by her tears, thinking that tears automatically indicate an innocent or “victim” status in the abortion scenario. Instead, we must learn to express our compassion wisely, with gentleness and respect (I Pet. 3:15) — showing compassion where compassion is due and refraining from showing compassion toward sin.
And as we help each mama truly see her sin in light of God’s law, we do so recognizing that were it not for the grace of God in our own lives, we would be just as wicked.
Not a Victim FAQs:
- Isn’t abortion ALWAYS a hard choice for women?
- What about women who HAVE to abort to save their lives?
- Don’t most women regret their abortions?